Here is how I can help
When we work together, you share your thoughts and concerns, and I share information and insights, we set goals, we listen, we laugh, you may even tear or cry. It’s life-changing and freeing to be able to talk openly and honestly about all facets of life from personal goals to one's sexuality. And more importantly, to get you the pleasure in life that you want! It’s about taking a proactive approach!
Based on the topics covered in the session, assignments are usually given to complete at home to help the client progress. Coaching is focused on the present and future and meant to be short-term. Clients who are truly committed, reach their goals within the 3-month period. Some clients choose to continue past the 3-month period – they achieve their goals early on and then {like layers of an onion} delve deeper or work on other topics.
My Approach
My approach to my coaching and consulting sessions is holistic at its core. Whether I am working with a client as a Holistic Sex & Intimacy Educator, Empowerment Coach, Business Consultant, or Instructor, every aspect of a person’s life is addressed. We don’t go to work with only part of ourselves… we show up as a whole person, so the needs of the whole person must be nurtured.
HOLISTIC SEXUALITY EDUCATION & CONSULTING
Interested in exploring or expanding your knowledge and skills in sexuality, kink, tapping into your erotic side through art or writing?
The human body naturally wants to turn towards pleasure and healthy sexuality just as a plant naturally turns to face the sun. Tapping into our sexuality by learning to let go of culturally-induced sex, body, kink, and lifestyle shame, trauma, and negative self-talk are crucial steps to embracing ourselves and living more pleasurable, fulfilling lives.
Much of my work is focused on the mind-body-spirit connection. We must be in tune with every aspect of ourselves so we can safely allow ourselves to feel present, whole, and express the multitude of emotions flowing through us. This is what leads to an expansion of the ability to experience pleasure and confidence in our being and relationships.
EMPOWERMENT COACHING
Best for those interested in creating a system of accountability, goal setting, & empowering the mind, body, spirit connection.
I work with my clients to reverse engineer the life they want and begin building a path that is clear, realistic, and empowering. When I am able to bring goals into focus that may have seemed utterly out of reach, I experience a personal high that ignites my own passion to grow and improve. And I have. seen this same experience shared with thousands of students, clients, and colleagues over the years!
BUSINESS CONSULTING
Best for Sexuality Educators or Coaches(New or Aspiring), Health & Wellness Professionals, Artists, Business Owners, Mental Health Professionals, Coaches, Etc.
Do you have a spark of an idea, but no clue how to fan the flame? Or, maybe you have a business, but need to take it to the next level? Stand back… we are about to turn that spark of passion into a full-blown explosion!
The expertise I have you won’t find from your traditional consultant or business coach. Outside of building my own sustainable businesses and podcasts, I’ve charted the course with countless others. Most notably, I have completed contract projects such development of full-scale digital learning systems for non-profits, strategized and executed global product launches, completed university and corporate LMS implementations, produced and delivered training to global Fortune 500 companies with 10,000+ employees and over 100,000 daily platform users. From dream to reality, my passion is your success!
What else should you know about my consulting and education practice?
Regarding sex, sexuality, identity, or relationships (may that be with yourself, within partnerships, or poly/open relationships):
As your personal consultant and coach, I will offer support, advice, guidance, and resources. My work has largely been focused in academia in the past, and thus goals and objectives are crafted to meet my clients where they are today. Personalized and streamlined activities that drive inner-work are given to help meet those goals as effectively as possible.
My practice also centers on embodiment, mindset, and somatic principles. Rather than dictating cookie-cutter courses of action or offering up unsolicited advice, my blend of mentoring and personalized education allows for the discussion of alternate perspectives, ideas, and suggestions. I will likely assign worksheets or homework (don't worry, it will be enlightening and fun!) to help clients focus more on the inner work between sessions, thereby driving the results they seek more efficiently and effectively. I may also share relatable personal experiences when pertinent, help you work through shame by meeting you with empathy and validation, or simply serve as someone to “gut check” your decisions or thoughts.
Sessions can serve as a mentoring relationship or that of a 1-on-1 educator which can be ideal for those who are just starting their journey to sexual empowerment and acceptance, looking to enhance their ability to experience a new level of pleasure not just in the bedroom, but throughout their lives, or those new to alternative lifestyles such as kink, power exchange relationships, non-monogamy, alternative relationships, or those navigating dating/new relationships.
Regarding D/s, BDSM, or Kink Mentorship:
My practice centers around soft skills, strategic frameworks, and the psychology of BDSM & D/s dynamics. I will refer you to other sources for instruction on intermediate and advanced technical/hard skills (i.e. how to tie specific rope bondage knots, edge play practices, etc.). I will also offer support to help you integrate into your own kink or BDSM community with a focus on safety, consent practices, negotiation, identifying red-flags, crafting scenes, and finding resources to further support your journey.
How can a consultation session help you?
Sessions with a Certified Sex Educator can help you:
- Develop communication skills to talk to your partner(s) about your boundaries and desires.
- Explore alternative lifestyles, non-traditional relationships, kink, or polyamory.
- Design kink practices, D/s agreements, or explore sexually empowering rituals to suit your needs. (including fine-tuning for those who are neurodivergent or on the asexual spectrum).
- Develop methods to overcome barriers and challenges in your kink/sex/relationships.
- Explore empowerment practices to reduce anxiety and shame around kink and sex.
- Maximize pleasure potential by improving technique and incorporating toys & tools
- Design BDSM negotiations, discuss boundary setting and develop fulfilling scenes.
- Navigate the world of kink, D/s play, or consensual non-monogamy at a beginner or advanced level.
- Explore sexual and gender identity.
Frequently Asked Questions
How is intimacy/sex/kink coaching different from sex therapy?
A Certified Sex Educator or consultant helps clients identify current obstacles and create an action plan to help achieve goals, build confidence, satisfy desires, and empower the process of self-discovery and boundary setting. Educators and Consultants work to help you with current issues and challenges.
On the other hand, sex therapists work with clients to resolve issues rooted in a client's past. They work with clients on a long-term basis analyzing past experiences, traumas, unproductive/destructive patterns, etc.
Sex therapists also diagnose and treat dysfunctions and disorders. Therapists and psychologists also analyze present issues, but work within the context of the past, and how it is affecting the client today.
Educators/Consultants and Therapists often work together to address different aspects of a client's life. Therapists work to heal past wounds that are causing issues today, while Educators/Consultants work to identify goals and help move you forward. Both therapists and Educators/Consultants serve different purposes and require different training/certifications/credentials.
Educators/Consultants will often refer clients to sex therapists when it is clear a current issue is being affected by deeply rooted past experiences. In turn, sex therapists often refer clients to Educators/Consultants for complementary care to help empower, set goals, and move forward. One does not replace the other and it is important to understand the differences, as well as how they work together.
What does a session include?
Upon purchasing a session(s), you'll receive a link to complete your needs assessment form and set up a time via zoom to meet with me. Sessions are video or phone-based and you will receive a post-session summary in your Teachable account and via email within 24 hours after each session.
In addition, each client has access to their own individual portal that is private. You will be able to make notes, update documents, and keep a record of your progress.
Disclaimer: Coaching/Consulting sessions are talk-based and professional. They do not include any physical contact, or behavior meant to arouse or otherwise be construed as sexual between the coach and client. Strict professional and ethical standards are upheld during sessions. Furthermore, I DO NOT consent to view nudity/sexually explicit behavior, be the target of sexual advances/objectification, or attempts to solicit sexual contact/conduct. If the client behaves inappropriately, I have the right to end the coaching session/relationship without refund.